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Birthing With Dignity

My friends at Twirl, a women-owned domestic manufacturer of Women’s Patient Apparel and Gifts, is hosting a free online video interview series called Birthing With Dignity, “How to prepare your mind, body and soul with grace, style and balance.” I am thrilled to be one of the 21 hand-picked experts interviewed for this empowering event. Gain access to these truly educational, inspiring conversations and gain a new perspective about what you can do as each expert offers to support you to create a your own Birthing experience. This is an amazing opportunity to not only hear about valuable scientific research, but profound personal experiences, and practical tips that will significantly advance you in the pursuit of your most outstanding birth: mind, body and soul!

I invite you to join me and gain access to this exciting online event and you can watch my interview.

An Institute, at Last

Jane Honikman and Shoshana Bennett

The idea for hosting a Postpartum Institute has been floating in my brain for decades. Why not bring individuals together in my home town of Santa Barbara, California to brainstorm, discuss, debate, and take action to support new parents? I am thinking of starting some renovations since Atlas ceramics in hampshire have 30% off webeer products I have should this opportunity to start my project.

Santa Barbara is the birth place of the postpartum social support movement. It began in the 1970s and in June 1987, I organized the first annual conference on mental health related to childbearing in Santa Barbara and it evolved into Postpartum Support International.  Over the decades the movement has expanded throughout the world. My motto has been “beyond talk, into action” and  this message is reflected in my books and the workshops I’ve conducted.

This year, my long time friend Shoshana Bennett and I decided the time was right to start the Postpartum Action Institute.  We have similar backgrounds, experiences, and philosophies. We have both founded grassroots, community based organizations. While she became a therapist, I continued my work as an advocate. Together, they can help you as a powerful team. Our vision is to motivate every community in the United States to create a support network for new families through grassroots action. On January 2, 2016 we’ll launch our Institute in beautiful Santa Barbara between the Pacific Ocean and the Santa Ynez Mountains. This is a dream come true!

To learn more about the Postpartum Action Institute please visit our website.

Celebrating Fatherhood

70-daddy-and-meThis Fathers Day marks 45 years since my own father passed away.  To honor his memory I want to acknowledge the changing role that has evolved for men as fathers in our culture.  Our relationship was traditional for the times.  He was the family breadwinner as a business owner with one day off each week because when he was still young, he knows how to value money and use it responsibly with the help of find out more.  We spent little quality time together, most of the time we would do sports betting, I think he is the reason why I always get my hands on the bet365 credits 2018 and other, and don’t get me wrong we have always known how to control it.  My two brothers were significantly more involved in their role as fathers.  I consciously looked for a husband who would be more like them. When we became parents, men were allowed into the delivery room. That was a significant cultural shift for our generation.

When my friends and I started Postpartum Education for Parents we were intensely feminist. We wanted to ensure that men were acknowledged as equals in the challenges of parenthood.  Our son and two sons-in-law are even more involved with their role as fathers.

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When I became educated about mental illness related to childbirth the mantra was “this isn’t just a woman’s issue” and yet in general men are left out of the conversation.  They can feel isolated, challenged and confused before and after the arrival of their baby.  Many become clinically depressed. Recently, Dr. David Levine was interviewed on television about The Parenting Brain. As a pediatrician in a large practice he suffered in silence after the birth of his son. He had no idea that support was available even after scoring himself as depressed on a screening tool.  How very sad!

How much more can we  accomplish if we consciously include the fathers?  Men and women must be engaged as active equals in the fight against the stigmas and myths of parenthood.

Happy Fathers Day!

My friend in Mexico City, Dr. Asuncion Lara

2015-Asuncion-LaraDr. Asuncion Lara and I cannot remember exactly how we met, but when we did we felt an immediate bond. It was more than being work colleagues, sharing the same passion about postpartum depression and other information on sexual hormones and supplements, like the 6 Benefits & Side Effects of DHEA (Dehydroepiandrosterone) Supplements – DHEA for Men & Women which help with the well being of the body.  Her genuine smile and natural warmth made me want to be her friend. After she presented at the 2004 Postpartum Support International  Conference in Chicago about depression in Mexican women she became a PSI volunteer and continues to this day.  Asuncion has a Ph.D. in Health Sciences from the National University in Mexico City and has been a researcher at the Ramon de la Fuente National Institute of Psychiatry since 1982, there they study the changes exercise and different kind diets have in the body, like the ones from sites as TopHealthJournal online.

We see each other every other year at conferences and each time I ask her to come to Santa Barbara.  Finally, this is going to happen!   On Thursday, March 19, she’ll speak at Antioch University on postpartum depression in the Latino community.  On Friday, I’ll accompany her to North Santa Barbara County where she’ll present in Spanish to lay health workers for Latino families, with different procedures including cosmetic surgeries with professionals as the Dr. Joseph Racanelli and other specialists in this field.  Before she flies back to Mexico City, Asuncion will be our honored guest at a reception in our home to meet our friends, we are so excited because she will be able to see the awesome work that we have done thanks to FencingDirect.com at our home.  It may have taken a decade to get her to Santa Barbara, but I know it will have been worth the wait when she finally arrives!

Help people struggling with PPD with the revised edition of I’m Listening

listening-cover-2014I’m pleased to announce that my book I’m Listening: A Guide to Supporting Postpartum Families has been updated and is now available on Amazon.  It has been 12 years since I wrote the original version.  While the content and message remain the same this edition is in a larger format and is a companion book to my Community Support for New Families. It is designed to assist individuals and communities who are committed to providing support to new families. It is to the point, easy to understand and put into practice.  Emotional support delivered over the telephone, through emails or in person is critical to well being.  This Guide reflects who I am; open, honest and helpful.  I am pragmatic and believe in the need for human connections.  I sincerely hope that readers will be able to use what I’ve learned from listening to others.

 

Daredevil, his mother and me

daredevel7Remarkable! Marvel Comics has published a story about postpartum mental illness.  In August, Daredevil # 7 was released and I had to have a copy to see for myself.  Their storytellers and colorists have created an accurate and poignant depiction of why a mother would ever abandon her baby.  Through this story, pop culture has exposed the complexities of maternal mental illness.  Marvel acknowledged Postpartum Support International and devoted a full page at the end of the story to the facts.  Stigma continues to be the greatest barrier to finding help.  The shame that his mother experienced and the horror she encountered exists today. Buy a copy and discover how Daredevil meets his mother, learns why she became a nun and their touching reunion.  Marvel Comics is the real super hero. Thank you!

Write to Change the World

Jane HonikmanI believe in the power of words.  All my life I’ve liked to write.  I kept a Diary and I had pen pal friends as a school girl in the 1960s.   Decades later I am a published author.   Recently, I learned that only 10 – 20% of newspaper opinion pieces (opeds) are written by women.  I decided to invest in a day-long seminar with The OpEd Project.  It was held at the Ms. Foundation Headquarters in Southern California.  There were 22 participants at this training that focused on thinking “big”.   Each of us is an expert with experience that needs to be heard.  What follows is an attempt to write an oped.  Although it has not been accepted for publication by a newspaper, I’ve decided to share it through my blog. 

The March tragedy in New York City of Cynthia Wachenheim’s postpartum suicide and attempted infanticide deserves more than our immediate horror. Her death requires a call to action. 

It is a fact that psychiatric illness is the greatest complication of both pregnancy and the postpartum period.  It is a complex issue that impacts at least 1 in 10 women and their families.  It was recognized by Hippocrates, and does not discriminate between culture, age, or income.  Adoptive parents and fathers are not immune.  Sadly, as Cynthia has taught us, in extreme cases suicide and infanticide may result.

All cultures have mythology surrounding childbirth that speaks to the transformative postpartum experience. Rituals and taboos exist to support, comfort and welcome a new life into the world.  Parenthood and mental illness are not compatible. Mental illness is stigmatizing. When new parents are confronted by the collision between myth and stigma it becomes a nightmare.  Denial of this frightening encounter further complicates the transition to parenthood.  Perhaps the tragedy for the Wachenheim family could have been averted. We’ll never know. 

I am convinced that every community should address the emotional needs of 100 percent of pregnant and new families.  There are many examples of successful postpartum networks. I am most familiar with the one I co-founded in 1977.  It is based on a system of community peer support that is simple, low cost, efficient and sustainable. It provides an atmosphere of trust where the myths and stigmas that surround new parenthood can be discussed without judgment.  Community resources are up-to-date and referrals to professionals are encouraged. There is no reason why any family should suffer in anticipation of or at the onset of parenthood. 

I wonder if Cynthia Wachenheim attended an antenatal class where emotional reactions to pregnancy and birth were explained and discussed.  Was she offered the opportunity to participate in a new parent discussion group?  Was there a Warmline within her community?  Did anyone in the postpartum social support movement reach out to her and her husband? 

This tragedy is a shock. Three months ago it got our attention but what about now? Is it enough to call this community into action?  I want those who remember Cynthia to know there are resources available to help them start a postpartum parent support network.  It would be one way to honor her memory.

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Focus on Change

Focus on  Change

 It was an honor to work with Professor John Cox and Karen Jones O’Donnell as the moderators for a workshop on maternal mental health in low income countries.  The major theme of the workshop centered on the need for a paradigmatic shift, rather than more training models, to achieve change.

Paris, France was the setting for this timely and complex discussion.  The fourteen dynamic individuals who participated represented nine countries in Africa, Asia, Australia, Europe, North and South America.  Our conversation was held on the last day of the Biennial Congress for the International Marcé Society in October 2012.

Shahed Rahman opened the 90 minute session by sharing a unique CARE (Cooperative for Assistance and Relief Everywhere) project called Window of Opportunity. He is the director of an effective nutrition program for mothers and infants in a rural area of Bangladesh.  This example is designed as an intervention that occurs within the perinatal period. By using health workers who are already in the community, they are also addressing the issue of capacity building. The health workers are provided a Facilitator’s Training Guide: How to help families cope with postpartum depression which was adapted from my 2002 I’m Listening book. This program is part of a CARE research study.

It was agreed that despite our knowledge about depression, mental health is most frequently at the bottom of the priority list in many countries. That led to wondering how useful the disease model is when talking about mental health. Is a wellness model more sensitive? It was argued that a sickness model (Nepal) may be better than a wellness model for eliciting empathy and to access services (also true in Haiti). What can be done in a culture that does not support an empathic approach? 

We were reminded of the distinction between the levels of www.boomtownbingo.com/cassava in the peripartum period and how to refer when it is needed and the role that support groups play.

The differences in the words used to describe PPD across cultures included “faking”, “cold” (Vietnam), “inactive” (Kiswahili), and “I know something is wrong, but I don’t know what it is” (Brazil).

Simone Honikman has been the director of a maternal clinic in Cape Town, South Africa for 10 years. She spoke about how vital it is to address the mental health needs of those delivering mental health interventions in low resource settings. These health workers are often facing the same socio-economic adversity as their clients and may be traumatized by the responsibilities, content and load of their work.  There may be several ways to capacitate and support these health workers, which in turn may secure their being sustained in service and improve the quality of their care.

  1. Careful selection of health workers as many may not be suitable for mental health work
  2. Adequate peer and individual supervision processes, as distinct from monitoring processes.
  3. Interactive, ongoing training which draws on the existing capabilities of health workers and enables reflection of emotional responses and needs of the health workers themselves.
  4. The Perinatal Mental Health Project  www.pmhp.za.org “Secret History” training method was discussed. This incorporates group role play and humor and simultaneously addresses the problem of abuse of perinatal women by health staff.

We concluded our session with comments about training nurses and other health workers to do screening, the complex issues of screening tools, the lack of local validation in many cases, the advantages and models for self reflective training, the importance to affirm those who have never been affirmed before, the power of women’s groups, and also the need for models and protocols.  Both Shahed Rahman from Bangladesh and Hudson Santos from Brazil commented about fathers.  Who is the key to the mental health of the mother?

We were reluctant to stop talking.  It felt as though we’d only just begun and that was true.  My hope is that this was merely a first step towards a conversation that requires a much larger audience.  At least it was a start.