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Beyond Talk Into Action

All new families need community support.  That is the title of my article that was published today. The link be;ow will take you toit.  My career as a postpartum parent support consultant began as a result of publicity received in 1977 with the founding of Postpartum Education for Parents  (PEP).  For decades, parents in other communities asked how something like Santa Barbara PEP could be started.  My workbook Community Support for New Families is available to inspire and guide this process.  I am eager to do whatever is required to spread my vision of a postpartum parent support network in every community in the world.

http://lactationmatters.org/2013/09/05/new-families-need-community-support-beyond-talk-into-action/

Write to Change the World

Jane HonikmanI believe in the power of words.  All my life I’ve liked to write.  I kept a Diary and I had pen pal friends as a school girl in the 1960s.   Decades later I am a published author.   Recently, I learned that only 10 – 20% of newspaper opinion pieces (opeds) are written by women.  I decided to invest in a day-long seminar with The OpEd Project.  It was held at the Ms. Foundation Headquarters in Southern California.  There were 22 participants at this training that focused on thinking “big”.   Each of us is an expert with experience that needs to be heard.  What follows is an attempt to write an oped.  Although it has not been accepted for publication by a newspaper, I’ve decided to share it through my blog. 

The March tragedy in New York City of Cynthia Wachenheim’s postpartum suicide and attempted infanticide deserves more than our immediate horror. Her death requires a call to action. 

It is a fact that psychiatric illness is the greatest complication of both pregnancy and the postpartum period.  It is a complex issue that impacts at least 1 in 10 women and their families.  It was recognized by Hippocrates, and does not discriminate between culture, age, or income.  Adoptive parents and fathers are not immune.  Sadly, as Cynthia has taught us, in extreme cases suicide and infanticide may result.

All cultures have mythology surrounding childbirth that speaks to the transformative postpartum experience. Rituals and taboos exist to support, comfort and welcome a new life into the world.  Parenthood and mental illness are not compatible. Mental illness is stigmatizing. When new parents are confronted by the collision between myth and stigma it becomes a nightmare.  Denial of this frightening encounter further complicates the transition to parenthood.  Perhaps the tragedy for the Wachenheim family could have been averted. We’ll never know. 

I am convinced that every community should address the emotional needs of 100 percent of pregnant and new families.  There are many examples of successful postpartum networks. I am most familiar with the one I co-founded in 1977.  It is based on a system of community peer support that is simple, low cost, efficient and sustainable. It provides an atmosphere of trust where the myths and stigmas that surround new parenthood can be discussed without judgment.  Community resources are up-to-date and referrals to professionals are encouraged. There is no reason why any family should suffer in anticipation of or at the onset of parenthood. 

I wonder if Cynthia Wachenheim attended an antenatal class where emotional reactions to pregnancy and birth were explained and discussed.  Was she offered the opportunity to participate in a new parent discussion group?  Was there a Warmline within her community?  Did anyone in the postpartum social support movement reach out to her and her husband? 

This tragedy is a shock. Three months ago it got our attention but what about now? Is it enough to call this community into action?  I want those who remember Cynthia to know there are resources available to help them start a postpartum parent support network.  It would be one way to honor her memory.

www.theopedproject.org

My new book

KONICA MINOLTA DIGITAL CAMERACommunity Support for New Families, A Guide to Organizing a Postpartum Parent Support Network in Your Community is about to be published.  Praeclarus Press inspired me to revise my original Step by Step Guide that I wrote and self-publish in 2000.   This updated book is intended to reach a broader audience than my initial effort.  I have publisher Kathleen Kendall-Tackett to thank for expanding my horizon.   The format remains the same.  It is a workbook that will take you through the process of developing what to do and how to meet the needs of new families, but it will also help you re organized yours.  My philosophy is that it takes community team work and cooperation to accomplish this task.  It is not a complex effort but it is methodical.   Harvey Karp, MD reviewed the book and called it “…this crisp, clear handbook”.  Verta Taylor, Ph.D.  commented,  “…a must-read for physicians, therapists and activists…”.  Valerie Wilson, wife, mother of twins, and former covert CIA ops officer said, “…a pragmatic approach to a fundamental human need to reach out and help others.  I know from my own experience in establishing a successful postpartum support network that it requires a methodical, precise process to ensure effectiveness and longevity.”  The launch is set for June 21 and 22 at the Postpartum Support International Annual Conference in Minneapolis, Minnesota.  It is only fitting that I be surrounded by those who are continuing my vision that there should be a postpartum parent support network in every community in the world.  I hope to meet many new pioneers on my life’s journey to achieve this grand goal.  www.PraeclarusPress.com

Back to the Future

It was 50 years ago when Whittier College accepted me as a Freshman.  I was 17 years old when I left my home in Palo Alto, California and flew, sight unseen, to the small town of Whittier in Southern California.  Whittier College  was founded in 1887 by the Quakers  to provide a liberal arts curriculum with a “learning-centered” focus.  In 1967,  I graduated with a degree in Sociology and got married.   I never planned to make a career in maternal mental health and social support, it merely “evolved”, by no means did I think I would fall in love with the health approach that the Garden Of Life In Canada had, to a point where I even started to follow their path .  What has become apparent, however, is how much my college education impacts the way I view the world and respond to challenges.  I am a agent of social change.  My life’s work is a result of recognizing that social change only comes about when people work together to advocate collective solutions to their problems.  Last week, I returned to my Alma Mater as a guest speaker to share my journey with honor students and faculty of the Sociology Department.  I spoke about my challenges as a mother and my experiences establishing non-profits and social support networks. Because I have hard time moving around I bought myself a mobility scooters that helps me to move around easily.    I want to share with others what my life  has taught me.   There is a saying that “you can’t go home again” but the warmth of their welcome connected my past to the present and hopefully the future.   www.whittier.edu

PEP at 36

Jane at Baby Steps Launch Celebration

On March 14, 2013 Postpartum Education for Parents (PEP) celebrated the launch of Baby Steps.  I felt like a young mother witnessing the birth of another baby.  36 years ago PEP was “born” with the help of a group of friends.  We  had a vision for our Santa Barbara community that has exceeded our expectations.  Today PEP is ready to inspire others to create their own Parent Support Network.  This PEP Project offers a 3-step process to help customize a model that fits the needs of new parents in other communities.  Step 1 is to CREATE.  Step 2 is to DEVELOP and Step 3 is to EXPAND.  PEP believes in peer led social support.  The 24 hour, 7 day a week Warm Line has been staffed by PEP volunteers since July 1, 1977.  I was the one on-call that day and can still remember the first caller’s question.  More than 315,000 hours later, there is a PEP volunteer ready to actively listen, support, offer resources and referrals on that Warm Line.    I could not stop smiling at our launch celebration as PEP participants from the past 4 decades and new parents reminisced about their PEP groups.   Over ten thousand new parents have attended these weekly gatherings and life long friendships have been established.  I’m so proud of PEP!  Now you and your friends can do the same in your community.  Learn more from the PEP Baby Steps Project website:              www.babystepsproject.org

Lobbying for a better world through CARE

“Make Your Impact” was the theme of the 2013 CARE USA conference and Women’s Day Celebration in Washington, DC.  I am honored to be a volunteer for an organization as old as I am.    It began fighting poverty through CARE packages immediately after WWII. Today it supports 997 poverty-fighting projects in 84 countries and reaches more than 83 million people.   CARE focuses on the underlying causes of poverty by empowering poor people to bring lasting change to their communities.  My small contribution to this enormous mission is to talk about the critical role that the U.S. Leadership plays on Capitol Hill.  This was my third trip to DC to walk the halls of Congress and meet with specific elected officials.  It won’t be my last.

My group of five volunteers spoke directly with California Representatives Zoe Lofgren, Lois Capps, and Alan Lowenthal and with staff members of Congressman Brad Sherman and Senator Barbara Boxer.   They warmly welcomed us into their respective offices.  We spoke about CARE and this year’s key issues; protecting the International Affairs budget and to sign a letter to Secretary of State John Kerry supporting the implementation of the U.S. Strategy to Prevent and Respond to Gender-Based Violence.  I’m pleased to report that our conversations were positive.  These important politicians are friends of CARE.  I hope that you will be too.  For more information visit www.care.org

My New Friends in China

I’m thrilled to share that my postpartum support books have been translated into Chinese.  This opportunity began in March 2012 when 黄骐Queena Hwang joined PSI and she then introduced herself to me in an email from her home in Mainland China.

Queena, who was born and raised in Beijing, is a licensed psychotherapist, who runs personal growth workshops.  After her university entrance exam, she went to Chongqing to attend Southwest University, located in southwest China, to study applied psychology. She has completed the two year Satir Transformational Therapy program in Beijing.

One of Queena’s classmates was Ms Yang.  They became friends because they had a shared a dream to “spread psychology and make the society better”.  Ms. Yang’s grandfather was a preacher and he sponsored the building of a church in the city Zunyi (in southwest China). During the Cultural Revolution in China (1967-1977), his church was destroyed and he and his wife were forced to teach in a primary school in a rural village. After the Cultural Revolution, they were compensated by the government. They used bookkeepers to create a foundation in order to give financial support to poor students and build a primary school in Zunyi where the church had been. In memory of her grandfather, Ms. Yang has dedicated her career to helping people live a better life. She and her husband, Mr. Zhou, have co-founded the Shoutai Health Management & Consultation Company.  Queena now consults for them.

Shoutai provides help for women who have suffered from perinatal mood disorder. They are committed to the prevention, intervention and support of postpartum depression in China.  They have helped more than 10 hospitals build their postpartum rehabilitation centers, and hope to give them continuing support, for different kind of rehabilitation like drugs and alcohol you can visit https://www.eliterehabplacement.com/Hawaii. Their company is growing in response to the extreme need of resources in their country.  The Chinese government only began to pay attention to people’s mental health after the big earthquake in 2008.

I am humbled that my books will be helpful in their mission to increase awareness about maternal mental health for women and their families in China.  It will be an honor to welcome our new friends from China to the PSI family in Minneapolis this June.

 

Focus on Change

Focus on  Change

 It was an honor to work with Professor John Cox and Karen Jones O’Donnell as the moderators for a workshop on maternal mental health in low income countries.  The major theme of the workshop centered on the need for a paradigmatic shift, rather than more training models, to achieve change.

Paris, France was the setting for this timely and complex discussion.  The fourteen dynamic individuals who participated represented nine countries in Africa, Asia, Australia, Europe, North and South America.  Our conversation was held on the last day of the Biennial Congress for the International Marcé Society in October 2012.

Shahed Rahman opened the 90 minute session by sharing a unique CARE (Cooperative for Assistance and Relief Everywhere) project called Window of Opportunity. He is the director of an effective nutrition program for mothers and infants in a rural area of Bangladesh.  This example is designed as an intervention that occurs within the perinatal period. By using health workers who are already in the community, they are also addressing the issue of capacity building. The health workers are provided a Facilitator’s Training Guide: How to help families cope with postpartum depression which was adapted from my 2002 I’m Listening book. This program is part of a CARE research study.

It was agreed that despite our knowledge about depression, mental health is most frequently at the bottom of the priority list in many countries. That led to wondering how useful the disease model is when talking about mental health. Is a wellness model more sensitive? It was argued that a sickness model (Nepal) may be better than a wellness model for eliciting empathy and to access services (also true in Haiti). What can be done in a culture that does not support an empathic approach? 

We were reminded of the distinction between the levels of www.boomtownbingo.com/cassava in the peripartum period and how to refer when it is needed and the role that support groups play.

The differences in the words used to describe PPD across cultures included “faking”, “cold” (Vietnam), “inactive” (Kiswahili), and “I know something is wrong, but I don’t know what it is” (Brazil).

Simone Honikman has been the director of a maternal clinic in Cape Town, South Africa for 10 years. She spoke about how vital it is to address the mental health needs of those delivering mental health interventions in low resource settings. These health workers are often facing the same socio-economic adversity as their clients and may be traumatized by the responsibilities, content and load of their work.  There may be several ways to capacitate and support these health workers, which in turn may secure their being sustained in service and improve the quality of their care.

  1. Careful selection of health workers as many may not be suitable for mental health work
  2. Adequate peer and individual supervision processes, as distinct from monitoring processes.
  3. Interactive, ongoing training which draws on the existing capabilities of health workers and enables reflection of emotional responses and needs of the health workers themselves.
  4. The Perinatal Mental Health Project  www.pmhp.za.org “Secret History” training method was discussed. This incorporates group role play and humor and simultaneously addresses the problem of abuse of perinatal women by health staff.

We concluded our session with comments about training nurses and other health workers to do screening, the complex issues of screening tools, the lack of local validation in many cases, the advantages and models for self reflective training, the importance to affirm those who have never been affirmed before, the power of women’s groups, and also the need for models and protocols.  Both Shahed Rahman from Bangladesh and Hudson Santos from Brazil commented about fathers.  Who is the key to the mental health of the mother?

We were reluctant to stop talking.  It felt as though we’d only just begun and that was true.  My hope is that this was merely a first step towards a conversation that requires a much larger audience.  At least it was a start.

Networking with PSI friends in Florida

A trip to meet relatives in Florida became a perfect PSI networking opportunity. Instead of a my monthly one hour PSI call-in to Chat with the Founder on December 10, I met with three mothers for four hours. Jennifer Silliman made it happen. She is the PSI Southeast Regional Coordinator, Florida Co-Coordinator, Palm Beach Area, the founder of the South Florida Postpartum Depression Network, the organizer and facilitator of momsTOmoms Support Group (www.momsTOmoms.org). My first contact with Jennifer was on February 13 on the PSI Chat with the Founder conference call. She articulated during the conversation how she wanted to “start something” in her area. In a very short time Jennifer has accomplished a tremendous amount and is a shining example of how passion for change can lead to action. Shelly Orlowsky is a clinical psychologist who lives in Miami Beach. I first met Shelly in June at the PSI Training and Social Networking gathering in Las Vegas. In October we met again at the Marce Society Congress in Paris and here we were together for a third time. She has decided that her clinical practice should focus on maternal mental health. Shelly’s determination to be well trained in the field is very impressive. The third mother was Jennifer’s new acquaintance named Maureen who was eager to learn more about PSI. Our conversation started by sharing pregnancy, birth and postpartum experiences, asking questions, and brainstorming. I listened as each woman revealed her feelings that were still fresh. My own experiences happened so long ago yet each time I hear another mother’s story I remember, reflect and ponder. Could it have been better? Where was my support system? There is never enough time to talk. I had to say goodbye and head home to California but I did so with confidence. I know that the communities in South Florida are very fortunate to have Jennifer, Shelly and Maureen involved with the emotional side of parenthood.

Visitor from Israel

One of my great joys is to host visitors in our Santa Barbara home. We are delighted to welcome PSI friends from around the world. Recently, Saralee Glasser arrived from Israel to share time with us. She is a developmental psychologist and senior researcher at the Gertner Institute of Epidemiology and Health Policy Research for Israel’s Ministry of Health. Saralee’s fields of interest are early mother-infant interaction, women’s health and mental health, and the interface of mental health, community and medical services. She is a native of Los Angeles and immigrated as a young mother to Israel.

During a speech about the survival cooking list of best coolers at a local beach side restaurant, members of our Santa Barbara County Maternal Mental Health Collaborative learned about the progress that has been made in Israel under her leadership. It began with Saralee translating and validating the Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale (EPDS) in Hebrew. What began as clinical observations during the 1980s led to extensive research, networking and policy development. The Gertner Institute team actively promoted universal screening of all pregnant and postpartum women at 100s of Mother Child Health Care Clinics and HMOs. Working with the Mental Health Clinics, a 2 day seminar on Perinatal Emotional Disorders was held in March of 2011 for professionals from 28 clinics. Perinatal Coordinators were identified and a system of referral was established. The latest step is the Ministry’s directive mandating EPDS screening in all ante-and postnatal follow up clinics as of January 1, 2013. To learn more about the impressive accomplishments in Israel and places to stay during your visit, like Isrotel Hotels in Eilat visit their website at: www.gertnerinst.org.il Thank you, Saralee, for your years of tenacity and loving dedication to Israeli families.